Psychological self-help books usually get a bad rap. I think they are an easy target to make fun of because some people feel a slight embarrassment at not being perfect and needing the help. But I, for one, find them quite useful sometimes, if not amusing! :) There are so many out there that it’s hard to choose reliable ones. But the library is a great resource because our knowledgeable librarians research reviews before they buy material. Here are some I’ve found particularly helpful:
Loving What Is by Byron Katie: This woman has a very simple technique for dealing with negative thoughts. The “4 Questions” are simple but very helpful for quieting an anxious mind. The audiobook is even better than the book because it has real dialogues with several people who are struggling with anything from getting kids to pick up their socks all the way to dealing with tragedies like war and child abuse.
Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward: This is a great resource if you find yourself in a situation with a manipulative person. She discusses how both parties play a role in the problem, and how to end the negative behavior.
Please Understand Me: Character & Temperament Types by David Keirsey: This book has a test (The Keirsey Temperament Sorter) in the beginning to determine your personality type, then it explains the thoughts & behaviors of people who have different personality types.
Power of a Positive No by William Ury: This book has techniques for delivering a “no”, negotiating or having a difficult conversation. It’s a quick read and easy to breeze through to remind yourself of key points.
Jesse Lee Harmon is the bookkeeper/library assistant at the Oliver Wolcott Library and loves playing guitar & singing her songs, riding her scooter & cooking, especially with fresh herbs and lots of chopping.
